Alright, so this interview puts the last few things I’ve seen / read about Tom Hardy into better perspective, and I have a newfound respect for him as a person in “modern” society.
Have you ever had any sexual relations with men?
As a boy? Of course I have. I’m an actor for *beep*’s sake. I’m an artist. I’ve played with everything and everyone.
But I’m not into men sexually. I love the form and the physicality but the gay sex bit does nothing for me. In the same way as a wet vagina would turn someone else into a lemon-sucking freak.
To me it just doesn’t compute now I’m into my 30s and it doesn’t do it for me and I’m done experimenting.
But there’s plenty of stuff in a relationship with another man, especially gay men, that I need in my life. A lot of gay men get my thing for shoes. I don’t think I’m metrosexual but I’m definitely my mother’s son. I have definite feminine qualities and a lot of gay men are incredibly masculine.
The website quoting the interview text points to the essence of Hardy’s words to be “that sexuality is more fluid than most people admit and that men experiment with other men — as he did once.”
It’s refreshing to see people in the public eye acknowledge that human sexuality isn’t so cut and dry as to be between bio-males and bio-females. Or even to pigeon-hole it to be that people can only be one thing, gay, straight, bi, whathaveyou. Recognizing that experimentation and exploration is part of the human experience (in general, as well as with sex) is so important.
I tend to do my fair-share of “fangirling/fanboying” when celebs say things that can be taken as inferring gay tendencies, or when they share stories of “one night, after the party…” times, I really do. Especially on Tumblr. And I won’t take back one post, nosiree ma’am.
But sometimes, in that excitability that I have, I think I come off as being only sensationalist, only being giggly about “OMG is he GAY?” and all that. When really, I just love shipping people together because it’s fun and I have a vivid imagination…
…And I firmly believe human sexuality is a fluid thing. It’s not rigid, it’s not even a sliding scale or a spectrum, in my opinion. It is what it is. You seek pleasure where you seek pleasure, and where you seek it today might not be the same place you sought it out yesterday, nor the same you seek for it tomorrow.
Now, don’t get me wrong… Not gonna stop shipping same-sex characters (and slashing their actors) together… can’t stop that, it’s impulsive and fun. And, hey, if they ever actually did stuff or ‘got together’ yeah, my head would explode in the best of ways…
Ahem. But really, I just don’t put people into boxes. I can’t fit into one box or another, no one label feels like it suits me no matter how much I try to rationalize it, so why should I force someone else under one?
I also can’t just pick one shipping fandom. I mean, look at this shit: